Don’t Lose Sight
You go through life with ups and downs….
There are times that we smile, other times we frown.
We have goals that we want to make….
We don’t have to worry it is never to late.
Failure is success that is turned inside out….
So there is no reason for any of us to doubt.
We will have trials as life comes our way….
Sometimes we will not have the right words to say.
There will be times when our goals might feel out of reach….
It still OK to go relax, for it is time to hit the beach.
Your Dreams will come true if you work the best that you can….
You don’t have to rely on only your own hands.
Remember your heart and your Spirit Inside….
Then go for the gusto and give it a try.
Written By:
Victor W.
January 14, 2012
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Sobriety
Sobriety: The longed for sobriety arrives, or at least I haven’t had a drink or used today and as I’m feeling pretty good. My day begins, ever alert for a trigger or reason to use again, my decisions are never taken lightly & I intend to use this day well. In early sobriety I’m more aware of the fact that most of the people I know drink or use recreational drugs at first I’m finding it necessary to avoid all places where I may feel tempted, knowing that as time passes I will be able to feel more confident in going out & not using avoidance tactics.
I feel free now to explore other ways of entertaining myself, things that I have mocked before now attract me & being present & not in a fog is an added bonus.
I can watch films I’ve seen before & really enjoy them, I can swim & cycle & walk, have conversations that mean something. I existed before now I’m alive.
There will be days that I will be tempted, so I don’t look so much at the future I stay in the now, knowing that when the demons come I’ll have the tools I need to resist them.
Physical exercise is great for concentration as well as being a stress beater……I am staring to like this person I am becoming & what is great is I think that other people are too, I am beginning to feel loved.
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My Dad The Alcoholic
My Dad’s an alcoholic, but if you ask him, he will just deny it. I mean, what alcoholic ever admits he has a problem? My little sister and I have been living with his problem for around four years now, and I’m only thirteen. The only problem is that he does not know that he has a problem. I hate what my Dad is doing to my sister and me with his drinking. And some days, I even hate him. But it’s kind of hard to blame him when I think about how he got to where he is today.
We used to be the typical family. Yes, we had problems and we fought, but we worked through all that. I used to go to bed at night secure in the knowledge that I was loved and all was right with the world. Dad started falling apart around the time he lost his job. But he was managing to hold it together until my Mom died suddenly a few months later.
Then, it’s like he just stopped caring. Or maybe he just did not know how to hold it all together any more. I want to scream at him sometimes, “Hey, don’t you think I feel like drinking sometimes, too?! I’m just a kid and I have to deal with all this – just like you!”
Where’s the fairness in that? Now, my parents have always told me that life isn’t fair, but come on. It seems like some of us get a bigger share of “not fair’ than others do. So, I just pray like my Sunday School teacher told me to. But honestly, most days I don’t think anyone is listening.
Today’s a typical day, and the slamming of the door makes me cringe. I feel my stomach rumbling again, but I’m afraid to ask Dad about dinner at the moment. I need to see what kind of mood he is in first. Most of the time, I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. When Dad is having a good day, there’s nothing to worry about. He’s sober and I know we’ll eat. When Dad has had a crappy day, he will have stopped off by the ABC store after work, and we’ll all suffer the consequences.
Yes, my Dad managed to find another job after everything happened. He holds it together enough to hold a job. Though, I’m wondering how much longer he will be able to keep it if this downward spiral continues. I hear him calling me, “Jacob, you and your sister come into the kitchen. We’re having soup and sandwiches for dinner tonight.” My racing heart slows gradually and I relax. I let out the breath I’m holding and I sigh. Thank goodness, today was a good day.
Sex Addiction and Dad - Who is that Woman?
When parents break up, and kids are exposed to their parents dating new people the problem is a tough one. Divorce is insidious and dangerous to the kids of the world, but sometimes a necessary evil. What is worse is when the Dad has a sex addiction and the kid is now exposed to it. This is the story of a young man who witnessed his father’s alcoholism and sex addiction after divorce, and the effects it had on him.
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What to Do When Your Spouse Has a Hidden Addiction
Spouses share a unique bond, and tend to be more accepting of one another’s habits. This can make recognizing an addiction in a spouse rather difficult at times. For every obvious addiction problem that a spouse may have such as drinking and drugs, there are many other hidden addictions that can be hiding in the wings. Some of these types of hidden addictions can include gambling addiction, porn addiction, sex addiction and various others. Because of this, discovering these types of addictions in a spouse can be devastating because the spouse is genuinely not aware. Certainly drinking and drugs can be hidden, but they are usually more obvious to a spouse.
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Alcohol Addiction - Moving Past the Worst
Being an alcoholic presents a person with a number of challenges, each seeming to be the absolute worst. One problem always seems to be worse than the previous one, and each of them seem like excuses to reach for the bottle. Ironically the opposite is true. As bad as any problem is, alcohol will make it worse. So how do you get past the worst or the worst? Better still, how do you deal with it in the first place as an alcoholic?
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The Effects of Drinking Around Your Kids
Drinking in front of your kids used to be a social taboo in most every circle in America. There was a time when drinking was done in private and away from the watching eyes of children. Now it seems that drinking in front of kids is no big deal to the majority, as long as the drinking is not out of hand. The truth is, that attitude could be a long term problem both for our kids and our society on the whole.
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Alcohol Addiction - Papaw’s Story
Alcohol addiction is not always the obvious monster in the beginning that it ends up being over time. Sure, it will eventually take your life through any number of dangerous circumstances - but you do not always see it coming. This is a true story about how alcoholism can sometimes be found in the least expected places.
My Papaw was one of the most gentle men I had ever known. While he kept a gentle demeanor, he was one of the strongest men I had ever known. He would work a fourteen hour day six days a week like it was nothing. It was common to see my Papaw come home and sit down in his recliner and have a mixed drink, but it was far from alarming to us.
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Overcoming Alcohol Addiction
Relevant Advice for Overcoming Alcohol Addiction
Many people are seen having problems with the dangerous alcohol addiction while some seem to enjoy it. Besides both of these kinds there are people who seem worried and seeking all kinds of help to overcome alcohol addiction. The question I want to overcome alcohol addiction, please help me can be heard from many tongues so there is always an exception. People having alcohol problems are often seem to have drug problems as well. Only one form of treatment might just not be enough, let’s talk about a treatment that could cure the two addictions, alcohol and drugs.
An alcohol and drug centre can easily be found in every city for such people and also is highly recommended from professionals and doctors. Firstly you need to accept that alcohol addiction is not good at all, secondly you cannot underestimate the importance of such alcohol centers, no matter what, you have to give it a try. Whether it is you or it is a loved one of yours just walk in and consider all the options and ways you possibly can try to overcome alcohol addiction. Trying to overcome without any help and being on your own mostly fails and it has also been proved statistically. 75 percent of the people try and fail and then give up concluding that there is no solution and they simply have to live with alcohol for the rest of their lives; this act is totally wrong and negative.
Look for a good alcohol treatment centre and see what other people have to say about it, see how many people got helped from there and how many are currently attending its classes. Find a treatment centre that is good at curing both the problems, whether alcohol or drugs. After that have a visit and see the ways and equipments the treatment centre uses to help people out. Match the matter with your situation and requirements. Consider the fees, see if it is worth it or not because you would not want to waste money and get nothing out of it. Read their terms and requirements and the time span in which they can get you away from alcohol. You would find many expensive ones but look for the ones offering good services with reasonable prices.
Do not think of these centers as jails like most of the people do. Regular checks tell that most of these centers treat the addict no less then king or queens and make them feel really valuable. Alcohol would give you nothing more than death in the end so think about it.
My Story by Rocketman
My Story
I was born & raised in a small Mormon community in Utah.
My Parent’s divorced when I was twelve.
My Mother, little sister and I moved to Federal Way Washington.
What an eye opener that was moving from the country to the big city.
I got drunk for the 1st time when I was 15 on MD 20/20.
I woke up the next morning missing 1/2 of my front tooth.
My buddy were trying to stop me from drinking anymore, I pulled the bottle
out of his hand and it hit me in the mouth. I was hooked from the begging.
Back then there were Heads & Jocks. I wasn’t into sports much so I ended up being a Head.
I spent more time out in the woods smoking dope & drinking than I did in school.
I did graduate only because girls did my home work for me.
I was married, divorced and married again by the age of 19 & moved back to Utah.
We had a baby coming & I had no ins. So I got a job working in the coal mines.
My drinking continued to get worse. When my son was born he had a Cerebral hemorrhage in the brain.
The docs didn’t give him any chance of surviving and was supposed to have surgery the next morning.
I begged God to let him live and I promised I would quit drinking.
Well, God did his part. My son did not have to have surgery. He is a Walking Miracle and
just turned 30.
I was ashamed for letting God down and felt like he didn’t want nothing to do with me.
Time passed and drinking got worse. I put my poor wife through hell for the next 13 years.
I would go to the store for a pack of smokes and wouldn’t come home for 2-3 days.
One time I ended up in Ventura California for 2 weeks.
When I moved back to Utah, my Father & I were making up for being separated for 7 years.
He was my fishing buddy. I had 6 sisters and 1 brother. My oldest sister was drinking and driving,
rolled her truck & died. A few years later my father passed away. Too much Vodka had destroyed
his organs. Still I continued to drink.
In 1990 my life was so unmanageable and I knew I needed help. I went to a rehab center. That was when I was introduced to AA and the 12 steps. I attended AA for 6 years & learned allot about myself and how to deal with life on life’s terms. I managed to stay sober for 8 years. Then, my only brother suddenly passed away, also alcohol related. He was my best bud, I couldn’t stand the pain and started drinking hard again. That drunk lasted for 5 years. It was so hard to put the drink down. I searched the internet and found a site called
the sobercity. Stayed sober for 2 years before slipping again. Since then I have had a few months here & a few months there. I know I don’t work the program like I should. I also know I can never enjoy drinking again It is poison to my body. In the past 18 years
I have been sober for 12. Better than nothing I guess.
I want to thank my beautiful wife for her love and support she has given me these past 31 years.
I know I should practice what I preach.
If you really want to get & stay sober, you can.
Just don’t go into it with half measures and hold on to those reservations like I do.
